• Adventure. It is the exploration of the new and the vibrant that brings vitality to a relationship. Daily/weekly/monthly routine stifles adventure leading to boredom, apathy and a fading away of romantic love. Adventure shows in the cooperation of partners to initiate activities, short term or long term. There is a sense of mystery with adventure that awakens consciousness. Adventure requires imagination more than money. One partner may have higher levels of enthusiasm while the other partner catches the spirit and joins in.
• Creativity. Two people can share much through work, spirituality, the arts, diet, sexuality, bringing up children, the outdoors, and a vision. Such activities can develop creative ideas and solutions to issues. Love and creativity give support to each other with on-going appreciation for the skills and knowledge of the other and the willingness of both to learn. A creative relationship does not rest on the past, on its laurels, but looks to new ways to enjoy creative moments and times together. The creative shows in sharing the silence of meditation, the capacity to play, to initiate outings and starting and bringing a mutual project to completion.
• Communication. This shows itself in the genuine interest in what the other person has to say. There is no interest to develop contentious viewpoints leading to conflict and distress. Communication includes inquiry, a voice of curiosity and an authentic willingness to understand the needs, opinions and concerns of the other. Both partners know how important it is to feel understood. Both partners are willing to make changes in major and subtle ways for the other. Wise communication knows the whole person – attitudes, energy, strengths and weaknesses and the sense of what is deep and precious about the other.
• Trust. Trust requires openness, the capacity to speak and listen and the willingness to stay faithful to the needs of each other. Trust means a partner can rely on the other to do what he or she says s/he will do to support the relationship. Trust shows mindfulness and reliability. Monogamy matters deeply for 99.9% of relationships. A man or woman can tell their unfaithful partner to be out of their home before the partner has time to tie up their shoe laces. Fearful projections and jealousy can overshadow facts. It is important to acknowledge the wish of a partner to have good friends of the same or opposite sex. A couple practices to speak what is true and useful with thoughtful concerns to ensure on-going development of trust.
MAY ALL LIVE WITH LOVE
MAY ALL LIVE IN HARMONY