50 Pointers for a Wise and Loving Relationship
Part one of Two
- A relationship makes two people strong. This encourages loving acts and fearless expressions of kindness.
- .Know acts of love outside words. Reflect on forms of love given and received. They may be different.
- Apologise for unwise acts of our body, speech and mind. Make sure that your apology is sincere.
- Do not expect your partner to keep expressing remorse for what they said or did or not.
- A relationship reveals the divine realm of a god and goddess or same gender and reveals human realm.
- Feelings, intentions and wishes shape the voice as much as the words revealed. The composition matters.
- Kindness is powerful if free from expectations of a return. Know kindness matters in divine and ordinary.
- Be mindful of the feelings, needs and history of the partner. The person has history and you have too.
- Two people stay together for years. Love and intimacy bears no relationship to time. Be mindful of dependency and insecurity.
- Love and intimacy can be known in a short relationship. Depth of experience can provide long lasting insights.
- A person who lives a celibate life may understand much or little about an intimate relationship. Same principle applies to a non-celibate.
- Blame is the virus that destroys love as much as AIDS destroys the body. Don’t confuse honesty with negativity.
- Avoid bringing up hurts that are more than a week old unless you want self-pity.
- Don’t rubbish your partner’s family He or she couldn’t choose their family, but did choose you!
- If someone complains about somebody, remember it is half the story. Do not just agree. Ask many questions.
- If you forgive, then state it and afterwards keep your lips sealed Don’t bring up the issue again.
- If your partner acts irresponsible, don’t keep pressing for an explanation. No reason will satisfy.
- You act in an uncaring way. Perhaps you can’t explain the reason to yourself let alone your partner.
- If your partner has a responsible role, then try to understand the pressures that go with the role.
- Know deeply the difference between love and desire. You need love to make love, not desire.
- Desire upon yourself or the beloved becomes a pressure, gross or subtle. Know a wish is not a desire.
- Be adventurous when making love. Indoors, outdoors, different times and places. Be creative.
- Let go of working on your relationship. You work enough already. Instead, ask within. “What shows love?
- What love can I express today? What makes her/him happy? What brings a smile to his/her face?
- Love matters. Do not believe yourself if you tell yourself that you can work better on yourself in a relationship or outside of one.