50 Pointers for a Wise and Loving Relationship. Part 1 of 2

     50 Pointers for a Wise and Loving Relationship

Part one of Two

  1. A relationship makes two people strong. This encourages loving acts and fearless expressions of kindness.
  2. .Know acts of love outside words. Reflect on forms of love given and received. They may be different.
  3. Apologise for unwise acts of our body, speech and mind. Make sure that your apology is sincere.
  4. Do not expect your partner to keep expressing remorse for what they said or did or not.
  5. A relationship reveals the divine realm of a god and goddess or same gender and reveals human realm.
  6. Feelings, intentions and wishes shape the voice as much as the words revealed. The composition matters.
  7. Kindness is powerful if free from expectations of a return. Know kindness matters in divine and ordinary.
  8. Be mindful of the feelings, needs and history of the partner. The person has history and you have too.
  9. Two people stay together for years. Love and intimacy bears no relationship to time. Be mindful of dependency and insecurity.
  10. Love and intimacy can be known in a short relationship. Depth of experience can provide long lasting insights.
  11. A person who lives a celibate life may understand much or little about an intimate relationship. Same principle applies to a non-celibate.
  12. Blame is the virus that destroys love as much as AIDS destroys the body. Don’t confuse honesty with negativity.
  13. Avoid bringing up hurts that are more than a week old unless you want self-pity.
  14. Don’t rubbish your partner’s family He or she couldn’t choose their family, but did choose you!
  15. If someone complains about somebody, remember it is half the story. Do not just agree. Ask many questions.
  16. If you forgive, then state it and afterwards keep your lips sealed Don’t bring up the issue again.
  17. If your partner acts irresponsible, don’t keep pressing for an explanation. No reason will satisfy.
  18. You act in an uncaring way. Perhaps you can’t explain the reason to yourself let alone your partner.
  19. If your partner has a responsible role, then try to understand the pressures that go with the role.
  20. Know deeply the difference between love and desire. You need love to make love, not desire.
  21. Desire upon yourself or the beloved becomes a pressure, gross or subtle. Know a wish is not a desire.
  22. Be adventurous when making love. Indoors, outdoors, different times and places. Be creative.
  23. Let go of working on your relationship. You work enough already. Instead, ask within. “What shows love?
  24. What love can I express today? What makes her/him happy? What brings a smile to his/her face?
  25. Love matters. Do not believe yourself if you tell yourself that you can work better on yourself in a relationship or outside of one.

 

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